My name is Dee and I offer Creative Mental Coaching & Guidance on Self-Love / Self-Empowerment
- after Narcissistic Abuse / Narcissistic Dating Experiences
- after being raised by vampires (narcissistic parents) / having a LOW-IN-LOVE childhood.
All of my content is for creative, informational and educational purposes only and doesn’t replace therapy. When in doubt about my content, please discuss it with your therapist.
I am an experiencer, an artist and a messenger – not a therapist.
My creative work is meant to inspire you and help you put the focus back on yourself.
My work here consists of sharing the processes that have worked for me.
I also share all of the mistakes I’ve made.
Are you feeling trauma-bonded to the narcissist?
Take the shortcut: Quit your addiction to self-avoidance.
Whether you identify with the label “codependency” or not, my personal belief is that we’ve all been addicted to self-avoidance, self-neglect and self-abandonment.
If you are affected by and trauma-bonded to a highly narcissistic person, then your level of self-esteem is the problem, not so much the narcissist. – This may be an unpopular belief for many, but this is what I base my work upon.
Why? Because it’s the only strategy that has worked for me in order to break the trauma bonds that have kept me small until the age of 37.
Lots of narcissists can be attracted to you throughout your life and there’s little you can change about that. – The more important questions are:
Why are you available for narcissistic behaviour?
Why are you attracted to highly narcissistic people?
Why do you continue to leave a door open for them?
These are the questions I focus on here.
I shed light on the self-deception we all fall into if we’ve ever loved a narcissist.
I no longer focus on how narcissists behave, why they do this or the other thing – because that part is very simple: They are incredibly weak, manipulative beings, suffer from a fragile ego and can only be helped if they give up all of their destructive coping mechanisms, which most of them never will because their narcissism serves them; most would suffer a total collapse without it. (Like Darth Vader without his armor.)
Our problem is, the narcissist becomes our drug and we then collapse without the narcissist, too.
As a result, we focus way too much on the narcissist – during and for many even long after the relationship is over! This is the trauma bond you need to break.
How did we get here? Via self-abandonment.
This is what I tackle in my work.
We can replace the destructive habit of abandoning ourselves by going towards our self and reconnecting with it. This is a daily choice you need to make.
Learn from someone who has broken free from all the trauma bonds and is living a life based on self-love and self-care. (It hasn’t been easy!)
Take advantage of the shortcuts I am offering here.
If you want to create a life that’s based on self-love and quit your addiction to self-neglect, then my products and coaching service may be right for you.
If you are not ready to take your focus off the narcissist and put it back on yourself, then you are probably not ready for my products and coaching services.
– That’s okay. Your time will come.
(Make it today.)
I am NOT a therapist and working with me doesn’t replace psychotherapy in any way. If you have any doubts about this, please ask the psychotherapist you are working with.
I highly recommend that you go to therapy with a qualified, high-quality therapist in addition to any kind of self-help work you are doing.
And remember: you need to do this work for the rest of your life. This is a lifestyle change, not a course you do once and then you’re done.
Change is up to you.
You are always 100% responsible for your self-esteem, boundaries and self-image.
No time for narcissists!
All the power to you.
– Your Ally in Self-Care,
Dee