Today I found a video that was really moving…
However, I’d like to add that, even though we can and should tell each other nice things and what we’d like hear and experience ourselves, the most important part is believing some/most of these things ourselves.
If we don’t believe a lot of these things ourselves, other people are just wasting their energy in trying to make us feel better.
Basically, one needs to create the feelings one wants to experience themselves, the belief in oneself, believing that you’re good enough, believing that you can achieve your dreams etc.
Ususally, if we don’t believe in ourselves and someone nice comes along and tells us nice things, they’re either serious and we can hardly believe them, or they have ulterior motives (it happens…).
Other people can always change their mind, too, even if they’re serious. Today they want to be with you forever — tomorrow forever is already gone.
So in any case, believing in ourselves and loving ourselves and believing that our own life is important and valuable, even when nobody else cares, is always the most important thing we can do for ourselves.
The bottom line is:
Don’t depend on other people’s feelings and opinions.
and:
Don’t wait for others to love you the way you should be loving yourself.