Using heuristics to analyze people is my own invention. I had the idea while learning about UX design. What experience…
Category: All the things I did to heal.
Appreciate Yourself and Let The Trash Take Itself Outside
The consequences of growing up with narcissists are similar to what we hear from other forms of CPTSD. For example:…
100 Examples to Praise Yourself (Raise Your Self-Esteem!)
Don’t we all need some positive re-parenting? Someone to tell us: “You did well. I am proud of you.“? Thank…
Develop A Daily Routine For Better Self-Esteem
Developing better self-esteem is crucial – both in order to recover from enmeshments with exploitative and abusive people and to…
Reparenting: Know your needs and boundaries (so you’re not toxic to yourself or others)
Sometimes the red flag is us. Sometimes we are not safe for ourselves. Isn’t that a bummer? This self-defeating tendency…
FAQ: “Why do I keep dating narcissists/borderliners/Cluster Bs?”
I am an experiencer and a coach, not a therapist. So I will answer this question as if I was…
FAQ: “Should I call the narcissist out?”
It’s not about the narcissist realizing that they’re a narcissist. It’s about you accepting that you are feeling mistreated, whether…
FAQ: “Am I being too sensitive?”
Invalidating your boundaries by calling you too sensitive is just one of the many tricks toxic people play on you….
FAQ: “Am I the narcissist?”
It’s important not to accept all the blame (through gaslighting by the more narcissistic person, for example), but to question…
Do huge black pupils mean that the narcissist is a demon? (No.)
Black eyes are a sign of survival mode, not of being a demon. When we fight for our lives, our…